We all have a place we wanna get to,life is the journey that could potentially get us there. Often we overlook the journey for the destination,the forest for the tree. We spend so much time worrying about not being where we wanna be,that we miss out on everything beautiful that is where we're at right now.
                I'm not saying that we should take our eye off the prize...fuck it,that's what I'm saying. If we have tunnel vision,if all we see is what's ahead,then how can we see anything else? We must learn to make it a habit, part of our make-up, to stop and smell the roses as it was. To stick our tongue out the window of a moving car and see why dogs find it so amusing. Eat ice cream too quickly and get brain freeze. Swim naked in the ocean,a river, a lake...fuck it,your neighbour's swimming pool.
                         Freedom and jail, are both in our minds. There are men and women who are incarcerated who have more freedom than some who walk the street free. You should let your mind wonder, learn new things every day. smile at strangers and do something charitable/nice for someone you don't know. 
                                         In order to get to our destination quickly, we must enjoy the journey. When you get to where you want to be,you won't be relieved and exhausted. You'll have had an awesome adventure and stories to tell,friendships to cherish and love that is timeless and true. All because you were willing to look out the window,to open it and feel the wind on your skin. Because you were willing to dance in the rain and take in every flavour, taste every sensation. 
                                                                    
                                                                        You will know true happiness because you chose to live,to be an active participant in your life,rather than exist and wait for the journey to end. Live,love,feel,eat,drink,touch and taste. Be open and your life will truly be yours and it will be a hell of a story. Carpe Diem...

Lessons...

10 lessons we should teach our children...

The price of something Does not determine its value.NEVER attach your self worth to how much money you have...

Fight for what is right,not just what you want...

Keep an open mind about everything and your life will be filled with amazing new discoveries forever...

Be honest,be kind,be a good neighbor to everyone you share this world with...

Give everyone the respect they deserve. Individuals always show us what level of respect they deserve...

Never let a man/woman who breaks your heart,break your spirit or make you doubt the beauty of love...

Keep the ones who love you close,appreciate them and show them everyday how much you value them...

Do not fear what you cannot control.We must accept what is not ours to determine,stay strong...

It is okay to cry,to lose some battles,as long as you come out of them wiser and stronger...

Always put GOD/FAITH first. Build spiritual strength and enlightenment...

Love isn't something you can plan,something you do. It's not like setting yourself a target, saying "I want a degree" or "I want a new job". The sure fire way to fail at any relationship is to push for it, when you push, all you do is push people away.
                                          Love is something that happens to you, not something you make happen. Love is like a car accident, you don't get behind the wheel saying "today I'm gonna cause a car crash",but once it happens to you it changes you forever. You're never the same behind the wheel again.
                                                                                                                                Love has hurt me, destroyed me, decimated me, but I have not one regret.I was scarred by it,but those scars are beautiful, they tell my story. I was loved and I loved. Nothing is more liberating,more powerful.
                                                                                                                              So no matter how alone you feel, no matter how badly you want someone to hold you and be with you, never compromise love for a "relationship". A relationship is not love, let love happen to you. Let it come to you. When it does; no matter how long, the wait will have been worth it all.

                                                                 LOVE HAPPENS...BELIEVE IN IT...

An open letter to YOU...WOMAN.

Dear woman,

I'm sorry. I'm sorry for every lie ever told to you, every night you were alone when you thought you had someone to hold you. I apologise, for every argument,when all that was needed was a conversation when things were calm. I would like to let you know that you are beautiful,I know any man can say that to you,but I mean YOU. Not your face or body. Your spirit, your essence, your mind,your soul are beautiful. You are a beautiful person, I want you to know this and never forget it, even when you are at your lowest.
                                                                                                                                              Thank you,for the little things you do and did everyday that were and are taken for granted. You make selflessness seem so easy and effortless, you take every step and move with such elegance that you make life easier to get through. For your grace under pressure and your constant faith and support, thank you. For making me better, more focused and for believing in my dreams, no matter how silly I sometimes thought they were. You are appreciated.
                               For your mistakes, for your moments of weakness and decisions that hurt me, you're forgiven. For every time your words cut me deep, for leaving me alone,drowning in my tears and pain;I forgive you. I understand that you are not perfect, I appreciate that and see you, all of you, the good and the bad.

Never ever stop being YOU.

Love Always,
Man.

Sober

The constant pain is gone,I'm over you...You're like the words to an old song,I only remember the tune.
I'm not with you,but I'm not alone...I still think about you,your beautiful soul.
Transitioning to the man I've always been...Only not by your side,as my world spins.
I used to sing to you,lullabies and declarations of love...I sometimes hear those songs,echoes of what was.
I don't hurt no more,the constant pain is over...My heart only hearts when I'm sober...It only hurts when I'm sober.

Pour another drink and I forget that I wanted to call...Take another puff of this and I'm no longer going through withdrawal.
                              Shots so hot and beer so cold...Like the last time we talked on the phone,you were so cold.
Whatever possessed me to give you a my heart...It's okay,this drink will tear that pain apart.
Holding on no more,I don't even care to think...I feel real good now,I don't care about you thanks to this drink.
I don't hurt no more,the constant pain is over...My heart only hearts when I'm sober...It only hurts when I'm sober.

I know not who you are now...You're a stranger...I feel nothing...I don't hurt no more,the constant pain is over...My heart only hearts when I'm sober...It only hurts when I'm sober.

I want romance

I am single,I've been single now going on 3 years. Recently I found myself in deep thought about the last time  I was in love.The fondest memories of my ex and that period of my life was the courtship. I know, right, courtship. The word isn't used much these days because, well because men don't woo women anymore. There is no courtship period, just talking to a woman, getting to know her,seeing what she's about and where her head and heart are at. It's called old fashioned and women nowadays have come to expect expediency when it comes to starting new relationships, so yeah, it's a catch 22. If you're a man who wants to spend time getting to know a woman, to court, you get friendzoned and if you're a woman who wants a man to chase you,spend time texting for hours about nothing and everything; he moves on to an easier chick. Everybody loses.
         All I'm saying is, I like the romance of a courtship period. I like the nervous energy, the butterflies and the laying yourself bare, naked emotionally with someone. Building trust, before you can call her your partner, woman, boo. So many people get hurt nowadays because they get into relationships with people they don't even talk to, I've had those, but we weren't together, we were fucking. If it's physical and not emotional, if the foundation is not built that a relationship can exist on, then the romance is gone and the partnership is usually doomed to fail. I am old school, so I say "bring back the romance" so even when it's over or you grow old together; the both of you individually or as a couple, can have that courtship to reminisce over. The days,weeks and months you chased, before you could call yourself her man but knew she liked you back. I want a courtship. I want romance. I want love to be love again.